9 Signs You're An Echoist

Have you been subjected to someone with narcissistic behaviour? Chances are, you could be an echoist.

Echoism (malkin, 2016) is a psychological concept that describes traits and behaviour. it is not a diagnosable disorder. It is the opposite of narcissism and comes from Greek mythology where Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection. and Echo, his lover, was deprived of her voice and forced to repeat the words of others (echoing them).

So here’s the 9 signs that you're an echoist:

1. You won’t ask for help You won't ask for help, as you expect it not to be given. If narcissists are your prime relationships, then you may have trained yourself not to have needs. It would be too distressing to have a need and not have it met than not to have a need at all.
   

2. Compliments are not for you You hate compliments and it makes you feel very uncomfortable to receive them. 
   

3. You don't want to trouble anyone You don’t want to be a burden on people. Your core belief is that if you have needs then you may lose the person you’re in relationship with by appearing “too needy”.
   

4. Pleasure doesn't feel great You don’t feel entitled to pleasure, even sexually, and may have difficulty expressing your needs in the bedroom or reaching the big ‘O’.
   

5. You put yourself last You prioritise your relationships over yourself and will make self-sacrifices in order to maintain those relationships. In short, you lose yourself for others.
   

6. You're an empath You’re Empathic and more sensitive than others. But you’ve learned that your gift of empathy has to be used to attune to others, rather than for your own self-care.
   

7. You don't like the limelight You fear of being special, or of standing out in any way (so, the opposite of narcissism). If your narcissist is in the spotlight, then you’re in the shadow.
   

8. Your ignore your own needs You focus on the needs of others rather than fulfilling your own needs. That may involve giving up your own voice so that the person you love can express their thoughts and opinions – and their words become yours too.
   

9. You blame yourself If something goes wrong in a relationship you immediately blame yourself (whereas a narcissist would probably blame you).

Echoism is something learned from childhood or narcissistic relationships and becomes your identity. 

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